Focus on what you can control, not what you can't

Didn't get the promotion you thought you were a shoo-in for? Anniversary date was kind of a letdown? Being able to roll with disappointments in life is an important part of resilience.

Go ahead and feel disappointed. But then find a way to move on in a productive way. Ask to sit down with your boss to talk about what skills you could focus on growing to prepare you for the next promotion opportunity. Plan another date with your partner (with less pressure for the "perfect" evening).

The thing about expectations is that there's always another one around the corner.